When my hubby(fiance at the time) first left for his fifteen month deployment I did not have anyone to fall back on during rough times. My friends were great, always there for a shoulder to cry on, but at the same time I'm sure they thought I was crazy staying with a guy who made me cry every other day. They didn't understand what he was going through, nor how much we loved each other. Gradually I relied more on my parents to get me through everything. They were my rock and I love them so much for being so understanding, and holding me all through the night when I missed my hubby.
About half way into the deployment, my hubby started talking about one of his friend's girl friends. I couldn't believe that there was another girl going through the same day to day heart ache as me! I was quick to find her on Myspace and couldn't believe how similar we were. At first we didn't hit it off like I thought we would. We just sent quick messages to each other..just getting to know each other type of question. It soon turned into a bond that could withstand anything. Quick messages turned into long chats, phonecalls and daily text messages. It was so easy to talk to her because we were going through the exact same thing at the exact same time. We could call each other in the middle of the night, and know the other one would understand exactly what we were feeling.
When our boy's homecoming came along, we were so excited to finally meet. I remember texting her hours before green ramp, both of us so excited to meet and that those 15 months of heartache were over. Once our boys were home I honestly thought we would drift our seperate ways. But it turned out to be so much more than that. We still call each other in the middle of the night bawling our eyes out, knowing the other will know exactly what to say to make it better somehow. Even though we don't get to talk as often as we would like, I always know that she will be someone I can fall back on and trust with all of my heart. The Army might not be on the top of my favs list, but it has brought me a great friendship that will withstand the test of time, no matter the distance or time spent away.
If it weren't for Ashley, and all the other wonderful Army Wifes that I have met, I wouldn't be as strong as I am today. No one will understand what it's like to have your husband torn away from you at a moment's notice like another Army Wife will. No one will understand what it feels like to sit for hours on the computer and wait for your husband to get online, or understand why you have to have your phone attatched to your hip like another Army Wife will.
So thank you to all the wonderful wives that have been there for me, and even to those who I have not met. We all are apart of something that bonds us together.